Offering Psychological Services to Men and Women Whose Same-sex Attraction Doesn’t Define Them
Client Choice Under Attack:
Interview with David Pickup, LMFT
For many years, Dr. Joseph Nicolosi, Sr. assisted hundreds of clients with their goal to reduce their same-sex attractions and explore their heterosexual potential.
A licensed clinical psychologist, he believed that our bodies tell us who we are, and that our bodies have made us for heterosexuality.
Homosexuality, he believed, is an adaptation to trauma; it is rooted in a same-sex attachment problem that leaves the boy alienated from his true masculine nature.
Dr. Nicolosi did not label this condition a "psychological disorder." However, in his view, homosexual development not only works against our biological design, but it leaves other repercussions throughout the personality. In his work with hundreds of men over the years, he saw how homosexuality interfered with his clients' ability to develop comfortable, non-erotic relationships with other males that are characterized by equality and mutuality.
Dr. Nicolosi began this work in 1981 as the originator of reparative therapy®. That pioneering work ended when he passed away suddenly in March of 2017. But a dedicated staff of licensed therapists trained by him still remain, working today in their own private practices.
Dr. Nicolosi's clients would tell him the following: “I know, on some deep level, that I'm a heterosexual man. But I'm troubled by homosexual attractions that prevent me from being who I really am."
Many men were victims of homosexual sexual abuse. They don't believe that "gay" could ever describe them. But that childhood experience has left them with attractions that they find compelling, although ultimately not satisfying. These feelings interfere with their values, their marriages, and deeply held beliefs of who they really are.
There are many other factors of childhood that can lead a man down a homosexual path. Some men had a negative experience with women (such as a disempowering mother) that blocks them from being attracted to females. Others failed to make a strong connection with their fathers, and in adulthood, they romanticize maleness. Still others successfully made the initial bond with their fathers, but the father was not effective enough to protect the boy from the trauma of a “crazy-making” mother; the boy then develops a longing for a salient man to intervene and "rescue" him, which becomes eroticized as he grows older. Many of these men don't consider themselves gay.
The legitimate therapist will not simply accept at face value, the client’s gay feelings. He must always ask “why,” rather than locking the client into an unwanted gay self-identification.
Perhaps you, too, believe that these feelings do not represent “who you really are.”
The Science Behind Our Work
In 1992, Dr. Nicolosi and two psychiatrists organized a professional association called the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH). Today, NARTH has over 1000 members around the world.
In “What Research Shows: NARTH's Response to the American Psychological Association’s Claims on Homosexuality.” This paper examines over 100 years of scientific literature on the subject of overcoming unwanted sexual attractions; it offers substantial evidence that for at least some people, these attractions can be modified. Gay activists, who almost uniformly oppose our work, still admit that for some people, “sexual fluidity” is a reality.
We are not alone in this belief.
Former American Psychological Association President Nicholas Cummings, Ph.D., during his years as Chief Psychologist at Kaiser Permanente in San Francisco, said, “Of the patients I oversaw who sought to change their orientation, hundreds were successful.” [USA Today]
Another Past President of the American Psychological Association, Robert Perloff, Ph.D., endorsed one of Dr. Nicolosi's books with these words:
“The author has contributed enormously to the sexual literature...his challenging and forceful commentary is must-reading from top to bottom, from stem to stern...The policies and resolutions of organizations such as the American Psychological Association... would be better framed and more truthfully based were these organizations...open to the sentiments promoting reparative therapy®.”
American Psychological Association (APA)
Losing Scientific Credibility, Say APA Insiders
In recent years, the psychological professional has become so ideological that it is no longer open to competing ideas. Few members remain who are still willing to speak up; the career cost is simply too high.
For a perspective on this process, we quote Dr. Nicholas Cummings. He was a mainline psychologist, a political liberal, and a promoter of intellectual diversity. Dr. Cummings served as president of the APA before the Association closed itself off to the diversity of competing worldviews. He also successfully worked with clients with unwanted homosexuality. Lest Dr. Cummings' words--spoken just 12 years ago-- be forgotten, we reprint them here.....Psych Association Loses Credibility, Say Insiders
We are proud to announce, due to popular demand, that Joseph Nicolosi’s Sr.’s book, Shame and Attachment Loss: The Practical Work of Reparative Therapy is now available as an audio book!
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